Invariably if the person I’m speaking to has been single at any point in the last decade, then yes, they know exactly what I mean, because if there’s one scenario that’s become endemic amongst myself and my peers, it’s our inability to define a relationship after the first five or six dates. Is it too soon to refer to someone as your boyfriend? If you’ve been on 12 dates with someone, you really don’t still want to be seeing other people do you?But if you’re not seeing anyone else, and you’re seeing a lot of each other what on earth is it if it’s not a relationship?If you've been down this road before, you know that it's seldom successful.You remain stuck in the "friend zone," which is relationship purgatory if you have a crush on someone.That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.
However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.When I asked him if we were going out properly he just said he ‘wasn’t there yet, and wasn’t even sure if he wanted a serious relationship.’ “I don’t want to push it as I have a really nice time with him.I don’t want to come across as some relationship-obsessed harpy and I’m sure once we’ve been seeing each other for long enough he’ll come round – we’re in a relationship in all but name anyway.” I slightly want to bang my head against the keyboard now, not least because I’ve said the same thing more than once in the past.Indeed I know of many people who go from such an exclusive 1-1 state to an open polygamous relationship.Such sexual practice, whilst being frowned on upon in some societies is common in others. In any case, relationship exclusivity is all about communication.