Related: Young gay bottom tells why he loves daddy top men You’re finally aware of the person you are and the way you want to treat others. They can show you things you didn’t even know existed. Let them run the show, while you have your mind (and other parts) blown. They didn’t grow up with marriage equality and words like “homonormativity.” They grew up during the AIDS epidemic. As a queer boy in his twenties, I can safely say I do NOT have drinking down like that. At some point in your life, you may have heard the term “daddy issues” used in a certain context. In modern culture, the Electra Complex manifests as a woman’s tendency to seek attention from men in order to compensate for the lack of her father’s attention.Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.Being freshly out of college, making a mere 32K a year working 60 hour weeks, with student loans flying out of my ass, the idea of having a sugar daddy was very enticing. Related: Young gay man explains topping older guys But after stumbling into a relationship with a wealthier, older man, I can say there is so much more to daddies than their sugar.There’s so much we can learn about ourselves as younger gay/bi men.While you figure out the math, let me be clear that I’ve met several other women in their early- to mid-20s who also prefer to date from a much older pool for various reasons.
Now when I say daddy, I’m not talking about a 32 year-old guy. I’m taking scruffy men in their 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s. You’ve probably realized it by now, but your twenties are a complete and utter clusterf*ck. They’re not dependent on alcohol — using it as a crutch for social anxiety. In case you didn’t know, there are different types of daddies, including muscle daddies and silver dads! Get on out there and meet the (older) man of your dreams. Find a daddy who can mentor you in all aspects of our life.
This is often a mutually beneficial arrangement for both parties involved.
A woman will receive guidance and gain more life experience from being with an older man while the older man gets to feel that he is powerful and is looked up to by the woman.
It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?
), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.